The Wellness Proposal

  Introduction: What do we know? Psychologists have found that a maladaptive explanatory (or attributional) style is an important factor that predicts learned helplessness . So, what do these words mean?  Let’s break these terms down bit-by-bit: Maladaptive Explanatory Style The term “maladaptive” essentially means “bad”. Think about it: anything that allows us to adapt to our environment (adaptive) is considered good because it ensures survival. On the contrary, things that lead us to “not-adapt” (maladapt) would be perceived as bad.  Explanatory style is the way which someone explains to themselves WHY a situation happens to them. here are three dimensions of explanatory style, including: stable/unstable global/specific internal/external To better explain each of these dimensions, we’ll describe them in terms of a hypothetical event, e.g. failing one’s exam: The terms “stable/unstable” refer to continuity →  whether or not an event is likely to repeat itself. If one describes the ev

  I’d like to start this blog with a message to all of those with toxic parents (one or both):   I’m sorry if you’ve had to manage the stress and if you have felt betrayed by the notion that a parent should be a major part of your support system. The truth is: they should be. But unfortunately, for you, it feels impossible. Don’t shame yourself for feeling resentment, just remember that at times it’s ok to feel that way because your feelings are valid. I’m sorry if you started to compare your parents to others and felt discouraged by the reality of your homelife. For some of you, this might have occurred if you visited a friend’s house and were shocked by their parents’ non-toxic behaviours. One might say that every household is different and has their own problems, and this is true. But for you, your household makes you feel unsafe and emotionally taxed. As you grow older, know that it is ok to stand up for yourself, and that you deserve better because it is not fair to walk on eggshe