The Wellness Proposal

  People come, people go, and people change. For this blog, I will refer to this as “seasons” because as time progresses, people change, just like seasons.  Quite frequently, people say that this is good because the true friends stay. For many people, this is true and they are able to maintain healthy relationships. Once someone leaves, it is easy to label them as a selfish or toxic person. However, there are some seasons in which both of you changed or you realized that you formed a temporary relationship because of the situation. One of the most common seasons is gaining acquaintances. For example, you join a sports team and once the league ends, you no longer interact with the teammates. This is an example of a temporary relationship because you regularly practiced and played with them but only interacted with them during those times. As a result, it ended because there was no external interaction and you never got to know them well. Another common season is a change of interests or

  As a child, the thought of failure scared me. It was the constant source of my stress and anxiety. I grew up poor, and my parents did not have the privilege of purchasing many luxuries, such as a phone, or new clothing and jewelry. However, even though we didn’t have a lot of money, I have always aspired to have their handworking and altruistic spirit. Both my parents work persistently to continue to develop their career to support our family, and I am extremely grateful to have them in my life. Their dedication has pushed me to work as hard, if not harder, to ensure that their efforts are valued and honored. As a result, I surmised that if I didn’t live up to their standards and my own high standards, it would be the same as being ungrateful for their tireless hours of hard work. In other words, I thought if I failed to do something well, I would be failing them - and my worth as a person would no longer exist.   I have lived by this rule for most of my childhood, which in turn made

  Recently, I’ve noticed myself reflect on the major decisions that I’ve made in the past few years. Whether they be related to my academics or personal life, there were definitely moments that I wish could’ve played out in another direction. Would my life be drastically different in comparison to how it has transpired right now if such and such happened instead? In terms of missed opportunities, what was it that motivated me to not pursue them? Was it the fear of the unknown consequences or the discomfort of breaking out of my comfort zone? Whatever the reasons were, I’ve come to recognize some common pitfalls that often interfered with my decision-making process.  The Mindset: A Decision Doesn’t Limit but Rather Opens up our Options Someone once told me that there exists no bad decision because every choice will continue to lead us to an infinite number of outcomes. Like a choose-your-own-adventure book, our unique experiences collectively work to shape our beliefs and perspectives w